"Why, if faith makes a difference in people's lives, is it so hard to tell the difference between churched and unchurched kids?

For the nonprofit CrossRoads Counseling Services, one answer is that parents — even born-again Christian parents — don't have the skills they need to nurture their children in spirituality and character."
Going to church will not lead automatically to children who are in touch with their spirituality. How spirituality enters into a discussion that should probably be about discipline, I'm not sure.

From Christianity's guidebook: spare the rod, and spoil the child. If you expect them to follow your authority, they must be aware of your authority. Must blend in compassion, as discipline without compassion is about servitude. They desire strong models, give them one, or they'll go elsewhere for authority. Like TV and peers. Wishy-washy go-along-to-get-along is weakness in the eyes of those seeking leadership.