Oh, I guess you weren't dogging Catholicism then, you were just dogging me? From your earlier post:



Fact #1: Catholics do get divorced, and some get their marriages annulled. If they don't believe in divorce, why would they take such actions? In some circumstances, the Catholic church does agree that marriages should be annulled, which is similar to a divorce. I just don't get how you can make blanket statements like that and now say, "but I didn't mean it like that."



Fact #2: I did not give an extreme example of anything, I responded to a comment from another poster. In my life, I've attended many Masses in several different Catholic churches, both before I converted and as a Catholic. I've also engaged in conversations with several priests. I have NEVER heard a priest make comments like the ones I'd responded to in my post. It's my perspective that the person who made the comments was using an extreme example.


Despite your implication that a priest would send the wife back to her abusive husband, I've already proven that this would not fly in my parish. I do find your comments here to be offensive.
Lysol, people make blanket statements that imply all Catholics are currently this way or that when, in fact, they've distanced themselves from the religion or aren't even Catholic to start. (There are bad people in almost every group; it's not just specific to Catholics.) If you're not an active Catholic right now, how can you opine about what the church is or is not doing in our area? This is why I refer to your comments as ignorant. I don't know why you left the church, but that's your business. I left the Episcopalian church because it didn't work for me; I tried other Protestant churches but found they didn't work for me either. Ironically, I chose the Catholic church largely because I felt they were more reverent to women than Protestant churches I'd experienced. In other churches, I left with the impression that Mary was just the vessel, not really of importance once Jesus was born. I find that to be quite the opposite in the Catholic church, where her personal sacrifice, strength and courage are discussed at length. Those are just my perspectives, of course, but it's based upon current participation, practice and knowledge of what happens in my church.

Getting divorced and believing in divorce are two differant things. I"m sure you can understand that. And like i said the Church as a whole frowns upon divorce, thats why you are unable to take the sacrament (Which for some reason, your parish doesn't feel the need to abide by) or remarry in the church.. Just because it is frowned upon does not mean that it can't happen. Sure it happens. I never said it didn't. And like i said in previous posts to you whole annulment arguement, they are two completely differant things. They aren't simliar. One says the marriage never happened the other said the marriage happened but didn't work out.


So just because this would never happen in your parish means that it couldn't possibly happen anywhere else? That was my point. I think overall most priests would want the person to work it out, etc. Yours is differant and that is great, but i think thats a minority view. I don't know why you find my comments offensive. I was simply stating what i feel to be the truth. Like i said you did this yesterday on another post, you took my saying the lack of use of BC in Haiti was contributing to the problems there, to mean that i was blaming the reason they were going hungry was all the religions fault. You read way to much into what i was saying because you felt like you were being attacked. I was giving you a differant viewpoint and that upset you. Didn't you just get done saying something to me about having an open mind??
But honestly i'm not going to change yoru mind, and you sure aren't going to change mine. So why don't we just call this agree to disagree.

My point in the Haiti thread that you continue to ignore is that, even if the Catholic church were not present there, Haitians might still be poor and still have high birth rates (there are other non-Catholic poor countries where birth control isn't practiced, right?). Just like here, where someone implied that Mrs. Sheerer would likely stay with her husband if she were Catholic. I'll point it out again...Catholics do get divorced. We don't even know if she's Catholic; Hillary isn't. (I'm not a Hillary fan despite being registered as a Democrat.)

What makes everyone assume that Mrs. Sheerer didn't know what was going on? Anyone notice what her occupation is? She is the colorguard instructor for Warwick high school band. Who knows, maybe she was even the anonymous tipster.

Well, whatever Mrs. Sheerer decides, I hope it's the best decision for herself and her kid (I don't even know if they have a boy or girl). I hope the kid will be safe and doesn't wind up thinking what the dad did is okay if mom decides to stick around. Yeah, yeah I know it's Mrs. Sheerer's decision (fortunately for me, I don't have to deal with the guy) and I honestly didn't expect her to make a life-altering decision based on the posts of anonymous posters on a forum who gather to discuss their OPINIONS (which some people seem to forget that that's all they are - OPINIONS). And if she's Catholic or whatever, I hope she has someone at church that she can lean on and help her make the decision that's right for her instead of pressuring her to blindly follow old doctrine.