LancasterOnline.com:News:Mom blames NYC for girl's death

QUOTE(s965sapphire @ May 30 2008, 02:48 AM)

I feel very bad for this innocent loss of life, but the biological mother is seeking a payout for a child that she barely knew. Furthermore the child hasn't even been given a decent burial before the biological mother announces to the public that she wants paid. Sure people make mistakes, but let's not forget that if this woman had thought about her children from the door, the child would have never been placed in harms way. There are some issues that weren't addressed. Is this child the only one of the biological mother that is currently in foster care? I doubt it! Why was the child taken away in the first place?

Gochenaur said she was trying to get Alvarez to agree to an open adoption, which would allow the biological mother more chances to spend time with her daughter. But also stated in the article that she said she had been worried about her daughter's welfare for years. So why would you agree to an open adoption or any adoption with this particular foster parent, if she had so many concerns for her safety.
If a civil suit is planned or money is granted..donate the proceeds to an organization designed to help other children in this unfortunate situation instead of rewarding an absent mother for having as she put it "a stupid past."

Great post for your first, thank you!

I suspect that a little further investigation of the bio mom will reveal that she is not quite the victim she paints herself to be in this article.

Has she always had custody of the children who live with her now? If so, why did she not try to regain custody of the child in NY instead of agreeing to an adoption? What does NY know about her that PA does not? Does she have other children in foster care?

The only victims here are the children. It is unimaginable that she could profit from her child's death.

What exactly is the meaning of "open adoption" as it pertains to this story??? Because that term REALLY confuses me. We adopted our son 20 years ago through an "open adoption". At that time it simply meant we knew the biological mother and she knew us. We spent time together before the adoption papers were signed and had the POSSIBILITY of her seeing our son after the adoption was completed, if we agreed to it. It in NO WAY guaranteed her any "rights" to see the baby, have contact with the baby or even spend time alone with the baby if we, the adopted parents, did not consent to it. the open adoption also provided a means, if he so desired, for him to find out information about her without a bunch of red tape to go through. The adoption was still legal and binding and after it was complete there was no chance for the bio mom to ever take custody of that child again, so I'm confused why the mention of an open adoption and the bio mom seeking to regain custody. She can't have it both ways. Our lawyers (we had 2 for us and 2 for our son) all explained an open adoption as being the same as any other adoption just without all the secrecy, definately not as a way of the birth mom somehow regaining custody at a later time. So, what was this bio mom really doing....giving the child up for adoption or seeking to regain custody....again...she can't have it both ways!!!!

QUOTE(s965sapphire @ May 30 2008, 02:48 AM)

I feel very bad for this innocent loss of life, but the biological mother is seeking a payout for a child that she barely knew. Furthermore the child hasn't even been given a decent burial before the biological mother announces to the public that she wants paid. Sure people make mistakes, but let's not forget that if this woman had thought about her children from the door, the child would have never been placed in harms way. There are some issues that weren't addressed. Is this child the only one of the biological mother that is currently in foster care? I doubt it! Why was the child taken away in the first place?

Gochenaur said she was trying to get Alvarez to agree to an open adoption, which would allow the biological mother more chances to spend time with her daughter. But also stated in the article that she said she had been worried about her daughter's welfare for years. So why would you agree to an open adoption or any adoption with this particular foster parent, if she had so many concerns for her safety.
If a civil suit is planned or money is granted..donate the proceeds to an organization designed to help other children in this unfortunate situation instead of rewarding an absent mother for having as she put it "a stupid past."

booodie

Well people look for their payday and its sad to see it come at the cost of a little girls life..Every child this girl have goes into the system ... She has for now 1 at home until this little girl end up in the same place....The grandfather is raising the other little one for now... And he's not fit to raise a pet mouse..We should be lucky that the mother cannot have more children.. We are paying for all her kids it had to stop...And now she will sue for a little girl she did not know.. This world is screwed up...

booodie